September 10, 2016 By:
http://www.inc.com/marcel-schwantes/the-10-biggest-truths-about-leadership-according-to-30-years-of-research.html?cid=sf01001&sr_share=twitter Click Links for details The 10 Truths About Great Leadership 1. You believe in yourself. 2. You have credibility. 3. Your values drive commitment. 4. You have vision. 5. You know you can't do it alone. 6. You give trust before you get trust. 7. You welcome challenges. 8. You either lead by example 9. You are a great learner. 10. You are motivated by love.

September 10, 2016 By:
http://www.success.com/blog/4-steps-to-realistically-attack-your-goals?utm_content=socialchamp410wSnMmdW&utm_medium=social&utm_source=twitter.com&utm_campaign=socialchamp.io Gary Vaynerchuk July 28, 2016 Ten years ago when I turned 30, I was driving to my family’s business, Wine Library, and I looked at myself in the rearview mirror and said, “You are full of it.” I realized that nothing I had been doing over the last five years was putting me anywhere close to my lifelong goal of buying the New York Jets—a billion-dollar sports franchise. So on my 30th birthday, I had a difficult and honest conversation with myself. If owning the Jets was truly my North Star, then I needed to shift my behavior and start putting in the work necessary to achieve that dream. I had to keep in mind that putting myself on the path to success wasn’t just about having an “I can do it” mentality. I had to be honest with myself about who I am and if I am willing to put in the required work. I had to eat a ton of humble pie and start asking myself the right questions. No matter what your life goals are, you must be able to honestly assess and position yourself to get there. Once you become self-aware by taking stock of your strengths and weaknesses, you’ll know where to put forth the work necessary to attain your endgame. Related: 10 Steps to Achieve Any Goal Here are the four steps I would recommend to anyone who wants to start auditing themselves to realistically attack their goals—steps that will allow you to focus your time and energy into the best outlets that ladder you up to what you want in life: 1. Become more self-aware. If you don’t have self-awareness, one of the ways you can gain it is by getting other people to give you the data points. The people who know you best often see the things you can’t see for yourself. Please remember that you’ll need to be mentally prepared to hear both the good and the bad. Either way, you’ll learn more about yourself than you could on your own. When you’re ready, take the two to five important people in your life, create a safe space for them to be candid and ask: “You’re going to hesitate, but I need you to be honest: What do you think I’m good at and what do you think I’m bad at?” Knowing your strengths and weaknesses will help you figure out your next steps. 2. Play to your strengths. Once you find out your strengths, list them and then figure out how they can map to your goals. You might know you’re a great student, and even though you might not be interested in something directly related, like academia, you have to ask how those skills can be useful elsewhere. For example, curiosity and attention to detail are traits that translate to many other industries. Your talents will serve as the blueprint to reach your North Star. Your strengths and natural talents will tell you what routes to pursue, while your weakness will help dictate what to avoid. 3. Respect your weaknesses. One of the biggest mistakes I think people make is putting effort toward making up for their flaws. In America, we’re sold every day on trying to “fix” the attributes we don’t have or the skills we think we need. Instead, respect your weaknesses, but don’t waste time dwelling on them. I could fill up pages with my weaknesses, but I don’t focus on them. I’d rather concentrate on my strengths and the opportunities at hand. To win, you need to be your biggest fan. Everyone has weaknesses, but the people who win respect their strengths more. 4. Stay in your lane. If you can play to your strengths and respect your weaknesses, it will give you the confidence to put yourself in winning situations. For example, you can become part of relevant conversations or business decisions where you can provide the most value. I’m a salesman and a business builder. I’ve been doing it my whole life. So when I talk about business, or marketing, or wine, or the New York Jets, I have nothing but confidence. However, you’d be surprised how quiet I am around the dinner table when the conversation turns to politics or the latest episode of a popular TV show. I can be loud and proud in my areas of expertise because I stay in my lane. That day 10 years ago, I had to make a big decision on defining what my personal success would look like. But ever since I started being honest with myself, it was clear to me what I had to do and will continue to focus on in order to get what I want. I don’t know if I’ll end up owning the Jets, but I know that I’ve put myself in the best position to make it happen. I made a personal assessment, and I still do every now and then, to make sure I’m still on the right track. Even with these steps, there is no secret formula and there are no shortcuts. You have to put in the work if you want success.

August 7, 2016 By:
Around 130 miles southwest of Kabul, Afghanistan lies the small village of Sabray. In late June of 2005 one of the villagers named Mohammed Gulab, a husband and father, went on a patrol of one of the surrounding mountains. Over several days the people of Sabray were hearing intense warfare between the U.S. military and Taliban forces. In terms of the war, the village was split. Many in the small community had relatives fighting with the Taliban, while others hated Taliban brutality and hoped the United States would prevail. Gulab had issues with either side as he roamed the mountains with his AK-47 that day. Then he made a discovery that would change his life. He and the two men he was with came across a badly injured Navy Seal. He was shot twice, had shrapnel wounds throughout his legs, had suffered several broken vertebrae in his back, and was dying of thirst. He had to make a decision. Should he help the American or not? Gulab decided to help the soldier, whose name was Marcus Luttrell. His story was told in the book turned movie Lone Survivor. Luttrell was fortunate to be found by Gulab, who lived by an honor code known as Pashtunwali. Three of the most important tenets are that they show extreme hospitality to a visitor regardless of their background, they offer protection to that person from their enemies (to the death if needed), and show bravery by protecting their property against any invasion. Luttrell was even more fortunate because Gulab, not only lived by that code of honor, but he was also a fierce warrior and leader. At age eight he began fighting the Russians when they invaded in 1979. By age fifteen, he was commanding troops and had earned the honored nickname, “The Lion of Sabray.” He was now in his early thirties and when he made the courageous decision to protect the wounded American soldier, the villagers of Sabray (also known as fierce fighters) followed his lead. The Taliban demanded that Gulab turn over Luttrell. When they told him that he, his wife, and his children would all die if he didn’t comply, The Lion replied with a snarl of defiance, “I will never give up the American.” Luttrell would end up surviving because of Gulab’s protection and hospitality, but mostly because he chose to be a leader not a follower. Recently someone told me that he thought my son showed leadership potential. That has had me thinking about my son and what to teach him about being a leader. My hope is to raise him to have the same discipline, courage, and honor that Gulab showed. Here are 5 important principles of leadership I am teaching my son (and daughter for that matter) to live out. Be Willing to Stand Apart The higher a person goes in leadership the heavier the responsibility they carry, the louder the criticism, and the more lonely it gets. Strong leaders have an ability to step forward with courage of conviction and a willingness to take a stand when others won’t. They set a standard for others to chase. That’s the difference between a leader and the crowd. Being a part of the crowd gives a sense of security. Leadership requires the bravery to step out where it is unsafe. NFL Coach Tony Dungy, who will enter the Hall of Fame soon, would call it being “Uncommon. ” Be Trustworthy In order to be an effective leader people have to be able to believe in you. A leader has to earn trust. That means always following through on promises and telling the truth time and time again. Your reliability should be scrupulous and predictable. When it’s not you lose credibility and when you lose that you lose your voice. Invest in, Care for, and Empower Others In my opinion, no leader in history modeled this better than Jesus of Nazareth. Leadership is not about empowering oneself, it’s about serving others. [Tweet This] The best way to inspire people to a mission is to know their gifts and passions and then put them in a position to live them out. If you want to be a person of influence you need to see what people are today, what they could be, what they want to be, and then help them get there. Define Reality In his book The Art of Leadership, Max Dupree states that the first responsibility of every leader is to define reality. The truth can be difficult to confront, particularly the truth about ourselves. If you don’t believe me then try playing a round of golf without taking a gimme putt or a mulligan. You find out really quick your actual level of play. A true leader is able to see himself for who he actually is (the good and the bad) and not how he wishes to be seen. Facing the truth, however ugly it may be, is essential. A leader seeks out feedback to gain a more clear picture rather than avoid it. Growth, change, innovation, and solutions are only possible when there is a firm understanding and acceptance of the current reality. Never Stop Learning A good leader must first be a follower. Find a person possessing the type of leadership qualities you want and learn from them. Then never stop learning. NFL Coach Dick Vermeil said that the time he spent as a broadcaster prepared him to be a better coach because he was able to observe other coaches and see how they led. At that time he was already a champion at the collegiate level and had taken the Philadelphia Eagles to the Super Bowl. Yet he never stopped learning and growing. That enabled him to come back to coaching and win a Super Bowl with the St. Louis Rams. In humility he embraced learning from others to reach an even higher level of excellence.

July 31, 2016 By:
You need to speak in public, but your knees buckle even before you reach the podium. You want to expand your network, but you’d rather swallow nails than make small talk with strangers. Speaking up in meetings would further your reputation at work, but you’re afraid of saying the wrong thing. Situations like these — ones that are important professionally, but personally terrifying — are, unfortunately, ubiquitous. An easy response to these situations is avoidance. Who wants to feel anxious when you don’t have to? But the problem, of course, is that these tasks aren’t just unpleasant; they’re also necessary. As we grow and learn in our jobs and in our careers, we’re constantly faced with situations where we need to adapt our behavior. It’s simply a reality of the world we work in today. And without the skill and courage to take the leap, we can miss out on important opportunities for advancement. How can we as professionals stop building our lives around avoiding these unpleasant, but professionally beneficial, tasks? First, be honest with yourself. When you turned down that opportunity to speak at a big industry conference, was it really because you didn’t have the time, or were you scared to step on a stage and present? And when you didn’t confront that coworker who had been undermining you, was it really because you felt he would eventually stop, or was it because you were terrified of conflict? Take an inventory of the excuses you tend to make about avoiding situations outside your comfort zone and ask yourself if they are truly legitimate. If someone else offered you those same excuses about their behavior, would you see these as excuses or legitimate reasons to decline? The answer isn’t always clear, but you’ll never be able to overcome inaction without being honest about your motives in the first place. Then, make the behavior your own. Very few people struggle in every single version of a formidable work situation. You might have a hard time making small talk generally, but find it easier if the topic is something you know a lot about. Or you may have a hard time networking, except when it’s in a really small setting. Recognize these opportunities and take advantage — don’t chalk this variability up to randomness. For many years, I’ve worked with people struggling to step outside their comfort zones at work and in everyday life, and what I’ve found is that we often have much more leeway than we believe to make these tasks feel less loathsome. We can often find a way to tweak what we have to do to make it palatable enough to perform by sculpting situations in a way that minimizes discomfort. For example, if you’re like me and get queasy talking with big groups during large, noisy settings, find a quiet corner of that setting to talk, or step outside into the hallway or just outside the building. If you hate public speaking and networking events, but feel slightly more comfortable in small groups, look for opportunities to speak with smaller groups or set up intimate coffee meetings with those you want to network with. Finally, take the plunge. In order to step outside your comfort zone, you have to do it, even if it’s uncomfortable. Put mechanisms in place that will force you to dive in, and you might discover that what you initially feared isn’t as bad as you thought. For example, I have a history of being uncomfortable with public speaking. In graduate school I took a public speaking class and the professor had us deliver speeches — using notes — every class. Then, after the third or fourth class, we were told to hand over our notes and to speak extemporaneously. I was terrified, as was everyone else in the course, but you know what? It actually worked. I did just fine, and so did everyone else. In fact, speaking without notes ended up being much more effective, making my speaking more natural and authentic. But without this mechanism of forcing me into action, I might never have taken the plunge. Start with small steps. Instead of jumping right into speaking at an industry event, sign up for a public speaking class. Instead of speaking up in the boardroom, in front of your most senior colleagues, start by speaking up in smaller meetings with peers to see how it feels. And while you’re at it, see if you can recruit a close friend or colleague to offer advice and encouragement in advance of a challenging situation. You may stumble, but that’s OK. In fact, it’s the only way you’ll learn, especially if you can appreciate that missteps are an inevitable — and in fact essential — part of the learning process. In the end, even though we might feel powerless in situations outside our comfort zone, we have more power than we think. So, give it a go. Be honest with yourself, make the behavior your own, and take the plunge. My guess is you’ll be pleased at having given yourself the opportunity to grow, learn, and expand your professional repertoire. https://hbr.org/2016/07/if-youre-not-outside-your-comfort-zone-you-wont-learn-anything?utm_campaign=HBR&utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social

July 27, 2016 By:
Houston Texans defensive end J.J. Watt is no stranger to the off-field scrutiny that comes with social media. This week alone, Watt had the Twitter world abuzz after meeting with "lifelong crush" Jennifer Aniston and helping out with a pregnancy announcement. On Friday, Watt took time to offer advice to some of the nation's top high school athletes at the annual Gatorade Athlete of the Year function in Los Angeles, where he was among the presenters. J.J. Watt told high school athletes, "A reputation takes years and years and years to build, and it takes one press of a button to ruin." Kevin Jairaj/USA TODAY Sports Watt emphasized the importance of being careful with what they publish on Twitter and Instagram. "Read each tweet about 95 times before sending it," he said in an interview with MaxPreps.com. "Look at every Instagram post about 95 times before you send it. A reputation takes years and years and years to build, and it takes one press of a button to ruin. So don't let that happen to you. Just be very smart about it." It wasn't the first time Watt has cautioned younger athletes about how they portray themselves on social media. In October, Watt called out Tennessee's Zach Mettenberger for his posting of multiple selfies during a week the quarterback was named the Titans starter. Watt's bottom line to the high school athletes Friday was to enjoy their accomplishments, but to continue to put in hard work. "Don't let tonight be the highlight of your career," he said. "Go out there every single day and try to be better. Push yourself even further. You have such a high starting point that the things that you can accomplish can be incredible if you're willing to put in the work." http://espn.go.com/nfl/story/_/id/13275834/jj-watt-cautions-high-school-athletes-dangers-twitter-instagram

July 27, 2016 By:
University of Wisconsin football coach Paul Chryst has a simple social media policy for the players on his team. Be careful what you tweet. Nothing is private. Don’t criticize an opposing team. Don’t engage with critics. No curse words. Nothing that happened or was said on the field or in the locker room. Then there is the Mom Rule. “You see some of their stuff,” Chryst told the Wisconsin State Journal. “(I say,) ‘I’m just going to copy this and send it to your mom. You good with that?’ … ‘Whoa, whoa, Coach. Wait.’ ” It’s not just moms that Chryst and his staff share social posts with. Wisconsin Sports Information Director Brian Lucas annually compiles a rundown of player tweets at the beginning of each fall camp that are examples of what not to do. Examples include a freshman tweeting out his home address and former Badger running back Montee Ball talking about hitting on a women at a bar. “It wasn’t really bad, but it was something that I knew he probably didn’t think that I or the media would see,” Lucas told the State Journal. “I think it opens their eyes that I can see it or that anyone in the media can see it, as opposed to they think it’s just something funny that they tweet that their friends see. “Hopefully it shows that they’ve gotten the message. It’s gotten a lot harder every August when I try to go through and find tweets of bad examples from our own team.” http://usafootball.com/blogs/americas-game/post/11133/wisconsin’s-‘mom-rule’-simplifies-social-media-policy-for-badgers#disqus_thread

July 26, 2016 By:
We too frequently become adept at pointing out our flaws and identifying failures. We need to become equally adept at citing our achievements. We have to be willing to say to ourselves, I’m on the right road. I’m doing OK. I’m succeeding. How do we change our mindset from fault-finding and uninspiring to one that’s positive and motivating? Here are three ways to stay motivated: 1. Chart your progress. Identify things you are doing now that you weren’t doing one month ago… six months ago… a year ago. What habits have changed? Doing well once or twice is relatively easy. Continuously moving ahead is tough, in part, because we so easily revert to old habits and former lifestyles. So give yourself regular feedback to monitor your performance and reinforce yourself positively. Don’t wait for an award ceremony, promotion, friend or mentor to show appreciation for your work. Take pride in your own efforts on a daily basis. 2. Keep the end result in sight. Always see the big picture of the ultimate goal you’re working for and the benefits that come with it. During World War II, parachutes were being constructed by the thousands. From the workers point of view, the job was tedious and repetitive. It involved crouching over a sewing machine eight to 10 hours a day, stitching endless lengths of colorless fabric. The result was a seamless heap of cloth. But every morning the workers were reminded that each stitch was part of a life-saving operation. As they sewed, they were asked to think that this might be the parachute worn by their husband, brother or son. Although the work was hard and the hours long, the women and men on the assembly line understood their contribution to the larger picture. The same should be true with your work. Each thing you do benefits someone, something—the lives and well-being of adults and children throughout the world, not just generally, but specifically. These are the visions that drive us through tedious details to the top. 3. Set up a dynamic daily routine. Getting into a positive routine or groove, instead of a negative rut, will help you become more effective. Why is the subway the most energy efficient means of transportation? Because it runs on a track. Think of the order in your day, instead of the routine. Order is not sameness, neatness or everything exactly in its place. Order is not taking on more than you can manage, without still being able to do what you really choose. Order is the opposite of complication; it’s simplification. Order is not wasting a lot of time trying to find things. Order is avoiding a lot of recriminations because you didn’t do something you promised. Order is setting an effective agenda with others so neither of you is disappointed. Order is doing in a day what you set out to do. Order frees you up. Get into the swing of a healthy, daily routine and discover how much more control you’ll gain in your life.

July 26, 2016 By:
FootballScoop Clemson Football – Team Commandments By Scott Roussel - July 5, 2016 ClemsonFootballTeamCommandments Clemson’s new football facility is nearing completion and it is going to be spectacular. This is the type of place that players won’t want to leave, with every modern day luxury afforded to them under one roof. With such a nice facility being built for them, Dabo wants to ensure that his players always remain focused on the Commandments that his program is built upon. Accordingly, every locker will have the following Commandments engraved into it: Clemson Football – Team Commandments Go to class and be engaged Be a good citizen Great effort: ALL THE TIME Work Ethic: NOBODY WORKS HARDER Decide to be successful (Your Choice) Expect to be successful (Your Choice) Clemson Football is 60 minutes or as long as it takes to finish Toughness! Mental and Physical Maintain a positive attitude no matter What the Circumstances Never lose faith Do everything with passion and enthusiasm Don’t expect more from your teammates that you are willing to give Have a genuine appreciation for each other’s role Be Coachable: Learn to handle criticism BE ALL IN! HAVE FUN!

July 22, 2016 By:
Mentally strong people need to have some time on their own "What are the characteristics of a mentally strong person?" originally appeared on Quora--the knowledge-sharing network where compelling questions are answered by people with unique insights. Answer by Gianni Cara, founder of SmartLab and VP of growth at Fubles, on Quora: 1. Mentally strong people take action. As Yoda says, "Do or do not." Hell is full of good intentions. They don't just say something for the sake of saying it. They do it. And they live with the consequences of their actions. 2. Mentally strong people don't react. They know how to control their tempers, and their focus is not on winning an argument but on achieving a goal. If someone starts arguing with them, they will not react. They will figure out what they want to achieve from this discussion, what the other person's point of view is, and how to get to their objective. Acknowledging that they are wrong is not a problem. The problem is not getting anything out of a discussion. 3. Mentally strong people look for opposite opinions. They constantly search for arguments against their current position and are open to change if necessary. They know that understanding the opposite side is the best way to form an opinion. 4. Mentally strong people focus on "why." Before they figure out what to do and how to do it, they ask themselves why they want to do it in the first place. The "why" is frequently what moves them. 5. Mentally strong people enjoy the process. They always keep the end in mind, but they know that to get there they have to first enjoy the process. 6. Mentally strong people need to have some time on their own. They are not only comfortable with being alone, they actually like it. And most of them use this time to think. 7. Mentally strong people stay a little longer. They endure just that little bit more that makes the difference between a successful endeavor and a failure. 8. Mentally strong people create opportunities. They don't wait for things to happen. They go chase them. 9. Mentally strong people let it go. They understand and accept when it's time to move on. They just stop for a moment to realize what they learned from it and the great moments it provided. 10. Mentally strong people value the small wins. They find joy in the small wins and celebrate them. This is part of the fuel that helps them to achieve big things. http://www.inc.com/quora/10-powerful-habits-of-mentally-strong-people.html?utm_source=twitter.com&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=buffer&utm_content=buffer24714

June 25, 2016 By:
Church groups (Vacation Bible School, Youth group, etc…) Hospitals Nursing Homes Animal Rescues and Shelters Summer Camps Daycare Centers Sports Teams Scouting Groups Summer vacation from school is a great time for middle and high school students to volunteer in their communities and make important connections that may one day pay an essential role in winning college scholarships. Scholarship providers highly value students who have been active in their communities and many applications are designed around the hours a student has volunteered. Keeping detailed notes about all community service time will make it easier to fill out applications that ask for exact hours worked for each year of high school. Also note names and contact information of project supervisors and descriptions of the work involved. Impressive letters of recommendation can be obtained from connections made while volunteering and helping others is a wonderful way for students to spend some of those long lazy days of summer.